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\nDoctor I have a problem, I finish very quickly\u2026See the continuation in the first comment \ud83d\udc47\ud83d\udc47 I laugh so hard \ud83d\ude02\ud83d\ude02
\nThis might get a bit TMI, but hey, this is a forum about relationships so whaddya expect? \ud83d\ude02<\/p>\n
Hi everyone. I never thought I\u2019d post about something so personal, but I\u2019m not sure what else to do.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m 21 and have been with my 22 year old boyfriend for almost a year. Our relationship is great and I love him to bits. We get along wonderfully and he treats me brilliantly. There\u2019s only one thing that I can complain\/worry about\u2026.<\/p>\n
My boyfriend has never been able to finish inside me during sex. Never. He can come just fine from handjobs and oral, but not from full sex. Every time we have sex I have to finish him off with my hand or mouth, otherwise we\u2019ll be at it for literally hours. One time we tried for TWO HOURS and I still had to use my hand to finish him off! I know some girls would love to have a guy that lasted so long, but it\u2019s starting to get me down and negatively affect my confidence. A couple of times he\u2019s even gone soft inside me, and that of course devastated me. Does he find me and my body that unattractive? Am I that bad in bed? A couple of times I\u2019ve even gotten upset and straight up asked him if it\u2019s me.<\/p>\n
He assures me that it isn\u2019t me, that he DOES find me very attractive (and he does compliment me and my body a lot, both in and out of bed), and he loves touching me and does find sex enjoyable, but he still can\u2019t come! He says he does get \u2018close\u2019, but for whatever reason can\u2019t seem to quite get there. He admits that he takes a while to finish whilst masturbating too, and he actually comes quicker when I\u2019m doing it. But again, PIV sex is different. What could it be? I\u2019m beginning to think it may be performance anxiety. We are both quite inexperienced sexually (we lost our virginities to each other just a few months ago) and he admits he often worries about wether it feels good for me (which it most assuredly does \ud83d\ude0f) and wether he\u2019s doing it right. Which again, he most assuredly is. I also suspect he is depressed\/suffering from anxiety. He was physically and psychologically abused by his father as a kid and still suffers from flashbacks of his dad choking and punching him. Thankfully his dad is no longer in his life, but the scars of his abuse still linger. He is only just now going to see a doctor at my insistence after years of suffering in silence. He is a typical man in the respect that he kept refusing to see a doctor, and it was only after he broke down in tears in my arms a few weeks ago and had a panic attack after yet another flashback that he agreed he should seek help. His mother is, unfortunately, quite cold and uncaring (when he told her he may be depressed she told him \u2018to deal with it\u2019\u2026) whilst also relying on him very heavily for financial support. He HATES living with her. However, he is moving out of his mother\u2019s house into his own place next week, so hopefully that will relieve some of the anxiety. Like I said, our relationship is perfect aside from this one issue. He is a great guy and I love him to bits. Plus, even though there is this one issue, our sex life is actually quite good despite it. He is, um, very good with his hands and mouth and is a selfless and caring lover, and again he assures me that he enjoys sex and so do I, it\u2019s just that he can\u2019t seem to finish the job and I do worry that it\u2019s me! Is he not as attracted to me as he claims? Am I rubbish in bed? Or is it his anxiety that\u2019s getting in the way? How could we go about tackling this issue?<\/p>\n
Argh, I\u2019m so confused. Any advice would be appreciated! Cheers \u2764<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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