{"id":18743,"date":"2025-05-13T18:59:41","date_gmt":"2025-05-13T18:59:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ourtimenew.com\/?p=18743"},"modified":"2025-05-13T18:59:41","modified_gmt":"2025-05-13T18:59:41","slug":"woman-comes-out-as-abrosexual-after-30-year-journey","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ourtimenew.com\/?p=18743","title":{"rendered":"Woman comes out as abrosexual after 30-year journey"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\nAttraction doesn\u2019t always follow a predictable path and for some people, it shifts and changes over time. This puzzling experience is more common than many realize, and it has a name: abrosexuality.<\/p>\n

Thought she was a lesbian
\nLet\u2019s explore the meaning behind abrosexuality \u2013 and how one writer\u2019s three-decade journey helped bring visibility to this often-misunderstood label.<\/p>\n

In a personal piece published by Metro UK in July 2024, writer Emma Flint shared her moving story of realizing she was abrosexual \u2013 after 30 years of wondering why her attractions seemed to shift like the seasons.<\/p>\n

Flint, who was 32 at the time of writing the article, describes her years of thinking she was a lesbian, followed by periods where she felt drawn to men, then no one at all, and then back again.
\nFor decades, she said she was \u201cuncertain of who I was.\u201d
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\nI felt lost, as if out at sea. I also felt like a fraud because of how much I changed my identity when chatting with loved ones,\u201d explains the freelancer, based in Staffordshire, England.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt wasn\u2019t that I couldn\u2019t make my mind up, but rather my identity shifted,\u201d One day I felt like I was a lesbian, yet days or weeks later, I\u2019d feel more aligned with bisexuality. My sexuality was fluid.\u201d<\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t until she stumbled upon the term \u201cabrosexual\u201d in an online forum that everything clicked.<\/p>\n

Finally,\u201d she writes, \u201cI felt seen.\u201d<\/p>\n

What is abrosexuality?
\nHealthline reports that abrosexual \u2013 a lesser-known LGBTQ+ identity \u2013 is a kind of sexual fluidity.<\/p>\n

\u201cSomeone who\u2019s abrosexual finds that their sexual attraction shifts often: they might identify with the term \u2018gay,\u2019 and later feel attracted to people of all genders, and then feel little to no sexual attraction at all.\u201d<\/p>\n

Elaborating on the identity, the health and wellness provider writes, \u201cTerms like homosexuality, bisexuality, heterosexuality, and pansexuality refer to the genders of the people you\u2019re attracted to. The term \u2018abrosexuality\u2019 is different because it doesn\u2019t specify a gender \u2013 it simply refers to the fact that your sexual attraction shifts over time.\u201d<\/p>\n

Offering her personal experience on her ever-shifting attractions, Flint shares, \u201cI love the person, rather than their gender so it doesn\u2019t matter if my sexuality fluctuates while I\u2019m with them.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cHowever, even after explaining this, there\u2019s always some people who enjoy demanding that I \u2018pick a lane\u2019 so that my identity doesn\u2019t offend them. I want people to know that, just because you don\u2019t know or understand an identity, doesn\u2019t make it less authentic.\u201d<\/p>\n

What does abrosexuality look like?
\nOne of the most important things to understand about abrosexuality is that it doesn\u2019t follow a single pattern. It looks different for everyone.<\/p>\n

To help paint a clearer picture, Healthline offers a few examples of how abrosexuality might show up:
\nDay-to-day shifts: You might feel exclusively attracted to men one day, and then wake up the next day feeling drawn only to women.
\nGradual changes: You could feel attracted to people of all genders for a while, and then notice that after a few weeks or months, you\u2019re only feeling attraction toward one specific gender.
\nFluctuating attraction levels: You might go through a period where you experience little to no sexual attraction at all \u2013 sometimes referred to as asexual feelings\u2014only to find that months later, your attraction returns and feels more active again, possibly toward different genders.
\nLong-term evolution: You might identify as a straight man for years, only to later realize you\u2019re developing attraction toward other men, adding new layers to your sense of identity.
\nThese examples are just snapshots of possibilities. There\u2019s no \u201cone-size-fits-all\u201d experience when it comes to being abrosexual, and that\u2019s what makes this identity so unique and personal.
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\nWe\u2019re all learning new things about ourselves all the time \u2013 that\u2019s what growth and development is about,\u201d Flint writes. \u201cEventually, I hope that abrosexuality will be seen as normal, just another identity that someone might have, and not regarded as a way to be \u2018on trend.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n

Flint\u2019s story is more than just a personal journey \u2013 it\u2019s a reminder of how vital language and representation are in helping people understand themselves. Many people may go through life feeling \u201cbroken\u201d or \u201cout of place\u201d simply because they haven\u2019t heard the right word to describe their experience.<\/p>\n

What are your thoughts on all these identities? Please let us know what you think and then share this story so we can get the conversation started!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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