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One woman, who wasn\u2019t spared any pain by her cheating husband, explains to Redditors that in her divorce, she also suffered the loss of her daughter, who was \u201cpoisoned\u201d by family. Years later, since her father burned through her college fund, the now adult daughter is begging for money from the mother she denied contact for almost 10 years. But before giving her estranged daughter any cash, she has one condition\u2026 In early 2022, a 45-year-old woman shared her story on the \u2018Am I the A******\u2019 subreddit, detailing the outcome of her marriage to a \u201cwealthy man,\u201d who fathered her daughter Kelly. Initially, her husband was generous, presenting lavish gifts to her parents, paying off her sister\u2019s credit card debt and even helping her brother land a lucrative job with a reputable company. Unfortunately, the original poster (OP) explains that his generosity also extended to other women. When the OP was in a \u201cvery vulnerable state,\u201d caring for Kelly, who was on only a few weeks old, she learned of her husband\u2019s first affair. Following the advice of family members, she stayed with her husband.<\/p>\n
Years later, when Kelly was 12, the author caught her husband cheating a second time. She writes, \u201cthe first time I caught him cheating I wanted out\u2026but my family convinced me to forgive him and that I owed it to Kelly to fight for her to have the stability of a two-parent household.\u201d The woman adds that her husband claims he looked for intimacy elsewhere because she wasn\u2019t \u201cperforming\u201d her \u201cwifely duties\u201d since she was pregnant. Refusing to be persuaded again by her former in-laws, \u201ctraditional conservatives\u201d trying to avoid a \u201cpublic scandal,\u201d she writes, \u201cThis time I wasn\u2019t going to be deterred and continued with the divorce. \u201dAdding that she \u201cfelt so stupid\u201d when he did it again, she pens \u201cit was hurtful to me that my own family was trying to pressure me to stay in the marriage in order to not lose access to the money and perks my ex had provided. \u201dArmed with powerful lawyers and the support of her family \u2013 both that only a lot of money can buy \u2013 the man took the woman to court, winning full custody of Kelly. Forced to let go of her only daughter, the OP writes that she walked away with \u201ca nice settlement and some alimony. \u201dAnd her brother, who rallied behind her ex, learned a valuable lesson. She writes, \u201cNot too long after the divorce my brother lost his job. I\u2019m not sure what happened and I never cared to ask. \u201dAll that mattered, she writes, was her relationship with Kelly, which was destroyed by her in-laws and her family members, who were still looking for handouts from her wealthy ex. Telling the young girl that her mom was a \u201chypocrite\u201d for preaching forgiveness but not practicing it with her dad, the OP writes, \u201cMy in-laws and my own parents poisoned [Kelly] against me\u2026I was distraught. \u201dAnd over the years, her daughter became more disconnected. \u201cI tried my hardest to still be in Kelly\u2019s life but by the time she was a teen she was fully convinced that I was the bad guy and told the courts she didn\u2019t want to see me anymore. I was heartbroken but kept reaching out. \u201dThankfully, the author writes that she had the support of her best friend Tina, her \u201crock,\u201d and her Goddaughter, Laura. In the years she was dealing with the loss of Kelly, the poster shares that she returned to school, landed a great job, and poised herself for financial independence. Kelly reconnects Things weren\u2019t going so well for her ex, who after being sued by a former employee, was fired from his job. Driven by his ego and embarrassed by his financial decline, the man drained Kelly\u2019s college fund to maintain the luxurious lifestyle he was accustomed. That was when Kelly remembered she had a mother. Reaching out to the author to pay tuition for grad school, the OP writes that she was hurt her daughter\u2019s sole motivation appeared to be money. Still, she agreed to cover her expenses, with one condition: \u201c\u2026that she sign an agreement that she won\u2019t contest my will where I\u2019m leaving most of what I owned to Tina\u2019s daughter.\u201d That daughter is Laura, the young woman she treasures. And despite her relatives saying it will damage the likelihood of rebuilding a relationship with Kelly she adds, \u201cI don\u2019t want to have the type of relationship with Kelly that I feel like I have to pay for. \u201dBegging advice from Redditors, the author asks, \u201cAITA For Leaving Everything I Own To My Goddaughter Instead of My Daughter? \u201dOffering their support, the online population agreed said that she is Not the a******. \u201cYour daughter has always been against you because of your family, and now the moment when things aren\u2019t looking good, she wants contact. Ignore her,\u201d writes one Redditor. Another netizen says \u201cI definitely wouldn\u2019t give the daughter anything unless she actually proves she does actually want a real relationship. Because so far she\u2019s not doing herself any favors by only showing up in OP\u2019s life for college handout! \u201dA third warns that the author is setting herself up for heartbreak: \u201cKinda sad that OP is tempted to knowingly buy a relationship with her daughter\u2026she\u2019s just setting herself up to be heartbroken when she eventually disappear again once her university is paid off! \u201dA fourth suggests that maybe Kelly reaching out to her mom extends beyond the money. \u201cIs her missing college funds the only reason why she reached out to you, or is it her being an adult and finally realizing fully what\u2019s going on?\u201d Responding to that comment, the poster answers, \u201clooking at the timing of her wanting to actually speak to me again and seeing how the majority of our (limited) talks is about her schooling and her financial concerns, I am inclined to believe so.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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